Funerals are deeply emotional, and the words we choose matter. Even with good intentions, some common phrases can hurt more than help. It’s important to speak with empathy and avoid anything that might dismiss someone’s grief.

Saying “They’re in a better place now” may seem comforting, but can sound like you’re dismissing someone’s pain. Instead, try: *“I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m here if you need anything.”*

Saying “At least they lived a long life” might unintentionally suggest that mourning should be easier. But *“Grief doesn’t have an expiration date.”* A better approach: *“They touched so many lives. I know they meant a lot to you.”*

Avoid *“I know exactly how you feel.”* Everyone grieves differently, and this can make the moment about you. Instead, say: *“I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m here for you.”*

Saying *“Everything happens for a reason”* can feel cold or dismissive. Acknowledge the pain instead: *“This must be incredibly hard. I’m so sorry.”*

Ultimately, your presence and compassion matter more than perfect words. Listening, offering a hug, or simply saying *“I’m here”* can mean the most.