I’ve always been close to my parents, so I expected my father to help support me financially after selling the motorbike repair shop he ran for 50 years. Since my mom passed away and he retired, I assumed he’d live quietly. Instead, he plans to buy a $35,000 Harley and take a cross-country trip “before it’s too late,” while I struggle with debt, bills, and saving for a small condo.

To me, this feels selfish. I’m barely staying afloat, yet he’s spending everything on himself. When I raise concerns, he laughs and says, “At my age, all crises are end-of-life crises.” I can’t understand why he’d waste money I could use to rebuild my life and gain stability.

Because of this, I’ve even canceled a Bahamas trip I planned to fund with what I believe is rightfully my inheritance. My friends agree, saying parents should support their children financially when they can. From my perspective, I still have a future to build, while he doesn’t have much time left, which makes his choices even harder to accept.

My father insists the trip honors my mother, claiming it’s what she wanted for him after she passed. I don’t believe that— I feel she’d want me to have that money to start over. Now I’m torn between cutting ties and letting go of expectations, or holding on to hope that he’ll change his mind. I don’t know which choice is right anymore.